and I realized I couldn't tell the difference between early veggies and weed seedlings.
We planted peas over a month ago and then were hit with a crazy amount of snow and rain. Spring turned back into winter. They were late to emerge but we indeed now have little pea plants. Strider does so much of the hard labor and the real "work" outside, so I thought I'd do my part and weed our early, cold crop garden. And then I got confused fast.
What to do? Do I guess? Do I swallow my pride as a novice farmer and call an expert?
If I choose wisely, the tiny weed roots are easy as pie to pull out and toss out of my garden patch.
If I leave them in there to see what they look like as they get bigger, thus making my decision for me, I risk them harming the good plant and being really hard remove.
Do I approach my parenting in the same manner? Am I able to recognize the weeds sprouting all around my kids and dispose of them while they are tiny? Or do I rationalize that the weed (music, movies, use of free time, friend choices) is harmless till bigger? That I will take care of it later if it looks to be causing a problem?
My teen and preteen sons in particular are causing me to constantly reevaluate what battles I'm going to fight and it's forcing me to clearly define what I will and won't allow. It's so dang hard to see the end from the beginning, I'm finding. I have to pull out those little weeds while they are seedlings and before they catch me off guard.